Part 1 of 3: THE WHY
I was at a point in my life a couple of years ago thinking about life after college and how I would survive financially. I worried about my debt, my income, my savings, future bills, everything. Overwhelmed by these downward spiraling thoughts, I said to myself “I hate money, all it does is instill stress and anxiety in my life.” Was I right?
I asked myself: Why do I hate money? …It was pretty simple; I didn’t have any.
Then I asked myself: Well why do I want it? …Another simple answer; I wanted to be comfortable. I wanted the ability to live a certain way and money seemed to be the only way to achieve that.
It became clear to me that I really didn’t hate it at all. If I had $10,000,000 in the bank I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be saying “Man, I hate my money.” In fact, there wouldn’t be much to hate. The truth was that I had an unhealthy idea of what money should be in my life and what it could do for me.
In my mind, I thought it was my security, the way to freedom and independence…
I had the wrong perspective.
Mentally, money was the factor controlling my anxieties and stress during the ups and downs in life. Have you been here? I felt restricted and less significant because whenever I thought I didn’t have enough, I felt like I wasn’t enough. I thought the only way I could effectively help people was if I had money. I felt owned by my debt. Every time I saw my balance, I saw slavery. I thought freedom would be achieved when my debt was gone and I could live comfortably because I had “just enough.” Have you ever felt this way?
I wasn’t desiring money for what it was, I was desiring the security and freedom I thought it could provide. Man was I wrong. If you’re feeling the way I was or feel like you need to address this false perspective in your life, reflect on these questions:
Why do I hate money? Why do I want it so bad? What are my expectations if I have money? What do I think it can provide?
We’re going to get to the root cause of this in part 2 and we’re going to talk about how that unhealthy perspective is detrimental to you and your well-being. And don’t worry we’re going to address it!
But for now, chew on those questions and know that there is a way to achieve peace and there is a way to alleviate your anxiety and stress. Stay tuned for Part 2!
Thanks for reading!
Cheers & God Bless